The path to winning your ex back is usually a tough and emotionally charged one and the majority of spurned lovers will look back and appreciate the second chance they were given.

It’s when a split is one sided when desperation and panic can set it and crazy things happen. But have you thought for a moment about what the future holds when you eventually make it back and are together again with your ex.

You know, the job hasn’t been completed. In fact it’s only just starting and if you think it is a job well done then you’re setting yourself up for another fall. You see, getting your ex back is a great achievement and more than 7000 people have been able to do it since the release of The Magic Of making Up.

But it’s then keeping your relationship on an upward plateau which presents a big challenge for most. Many make the necessary changes whether they be improved habits, predictability or becoming more responsive and it goes well for awhile but it’s similar to someone with an addiction, the temptation to fall back into old habits once you get comfortable is always there and it happens.

Dredging Up Old Wounds

This is such a vital aspect of the making up process that T W Jackson saw it important enough to dedicate a chapter to it in his book, The Magic Of Making Up.

Did you know winning your ex back is not officially over when you’re accepted back into the fold after you nail the apology. There is a definite maintenance program which needs to be put into place.

I introduced a friend several months ago to The Magic Of Making Up. Right before then, we were due to go on a cruise together, my wife and me and he and his wife. That week, his wife said she was leaving him.

For appearances sake, they still came on the cruise. It was uncomfortable. Anyway, he bought a copy of the Magic Of Making Up and did all the right things and within six weeks he was back with his wife.

Two months later, they split again. Why? Because after making the necessary changes he slipped back into his old ways. He got comfortable and despite being a friend, deserved to be sent to the sin bin again.

He forgot what led to the initial break up and all the good work he did in winning his ex back was all for nothing.

Dredging up old wounds was the major culprit in the end after looking like he had found a new lease of life. Jackson covers this dangerous part of the reconciliation in great detail and it’s definitely one of the more important pieces in the puzzle of winning your ex back.

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