In every part of the country people are faced with challenges. The economic downturn has sent thousands of people to experts seeking help. Some have gone to family law attorneys, some have gone to loan officers, and some have gone to counselors. From Washington to Seattle the social fabric has been ripped, torn and sewn loosely back together, leaving many people with a sharp sting. In every state people are facing new challenges. In every town people are looking for answers to the issues raised and brought to the surface by these challenges. Boulder therapists are seeing an up tic. Portland psychiatrists are booked solid. Scottsdale marriage counseling is seeing an increase in clients. Scottsdale counseling like counseling across the country is on the rise. All over the nation people are seeking help for problems that have been instigated or aggravated by the economic crisis.
Simple fact: this nation functions on a fiscal economy. When everyone has money in their pockets, relationships have less stress. Relationship issues are easier to overlook or ignore when the primary needs are met. A boat in the ocean can have a lot of problems, but if it isn’t sinking, life on the sea can go on. A sinking ship is going to result in either the crew coming together to find a way to keep the boat afloat, or someone screaming everyman for themselves, and heading for the life rafts to abandon ship.
When families are faced with challenges many of the issues that were tolerable become impossible to ignore. The economic downturn has sent many families into crisis. As people lose jobs, houses, and dreams, they have to decide what is truly important and worth fighting for.
The biggest and most important decision is deciding what is worth fighting for. Many people, when faced with a disruptive life challenge such as losing a home, take the fight into the wrong arena. Many folks are unsettled and upset by change. The feelings are so discomforting that they are cast on others. How often do people curse another driver because the boss made them work late, or the wife was upset about the trout stuffed in the freezer? Someone driving home after crawling out of bed with the new and perfect lover could be nearly killed by a talking on a cell phone while driving a Ford Lincoln and still be smiling all the way to work.. Most of what we consider problems are simply how we look at things. When that is understood then the real issues can be better addressed. With proper perspective the issues and problems will have real and tangible solutions.
Getting clear about what the important issues are a bit like finding the leaks in the boat. Some families’ facing crisis pretend the boat is not sinking. Some people abandon ship because there is a puddle in the cockpit. Some realize the ship isn’t what they care about and turn to take care of the family they love. Difficulties can lead to clarity or panic for many people. Getting professional help can often be the foundation for positive growth..
